Here are some ideas for what to do if you are quarantined or isolated with an abusive partner. We know that every circumstance is different; use what works for you.
RECOGNIZE AGITATION: You can use your best judgment to recognize when your partner is getting argumentative so you can prepare yourself. Make a list of the signs when you can tell your partner is priming up for an argument or violence.
MOVE TO A LOW-RISK SPACE: Think about where there are potential weapons and potential exits. Put kitchen knives and utensils in a cabinet to make them less accessible. Make a list of the safest places in your home.
GAUGE SERIOUSNESS: Use your judgment and intuition to gauge the seriousness of each incident; are there times that you have the power to give your partner what they want to calm them down? Think about what has worked based on your past experiences.
COMPROMISE FOR SAFETY: Understand your boundaries, be strategic about your safety. Know which battles you are willing to fight, in which circumstances.
PREPARE AND PROTECT CHILDREN: What strategies do you want your children to know? Can you make a code word with them? Do they know how to call for help? Do they know your home address?
CONNECT: If you have family or friends that have helped you out through hard times before, talk to them about support they can provide during quarantine. Is there a code word or signal you can use for friends or neighbors?
If you are looking for more support, of you need someone to talk to, contact our LifeLine by calling 215.751.1111 or emailing witservices@helpwomen.org (Mon-Fri, 9am-5pm).